As scandalous as it is to say in today’s day and age, God designed sex to be between a married man and woman.
Over the course of history, humanity has perverted this design in many ways and descended into many deviant sexual patterns.
Many falsely claim these perversions are not only harmless, but should, in fact, be celebrated.
But a new academic study has proven that God’s design for sex is best for humanity.
How does uncommitted sex impact marriage?
That’s the question that researchers from Florida State University wanted to answer through their study.
Many modern individuals are “motivated to pursue sex without commitment,” noted the researchers. One-night stands and extramarital affairs are increasingly common, especially with the advent of dating apps such as Tinder.
If people who frequently practice uncommitted sex get married, how do their marriages fare? The research team made several sobering discoveries through their study of several dozen newlywed couples.
1. Individuals who repeatedly pursue sex outside of marriage experience less satisfaction in their marriages.
Many young people view “playing around” as a natural part of life before marriage, and even during marriage.
They try to explore sexuality as much as possible before settling down with one person.
This kind of experimentation is touted as an important part of personal growth and preparation for a satisfying marriage, but researchers found that the exact opposite was true.
Marriage partners who viewed their sexual relationship as “unrestricted” were “less satisfied” at the beginning of their marriages, and “remained less satisfied over time” as well, wrote the research team.
The study found that “[steep] declines in satisfaction over time” characterized uncommitted sexual relationships.
Rather than opening new doors for fulfillment and joy, uncommitted sex leaves its practitioners dissatisfied and craving more from relationships.
2. Individuals who repeatedly pursue uncommitted sex are in increased danger of divorce and marital dissolution.
Marriages founded on “flexible” or “open” arrangements didn’t work, the researchers stated.
“Unrestricted” sexuality invariably “predicted marital dissolution” i.e. divorce or separation.
Advocates of sex outside marriage often argue that “open” marriages can actually help husbands and wives to enjoy each other more, but the study found that this simply wasn’t true.
Flitting from partner to partner doesn’t fulfill the deep human longing for connection or satisfaction; it merely prolongs the inevitable pain of separation from a spouse.
Genesis 2:24 states, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
God created humans to spend life with one person, and attempts to go against His design never end well for either partner.
3. Individuals who pursue uncommitted sex often do so because of social and cultural pressures.
It’s no secret that modern culture views “unrestricted sexuality” as empowering or freeing.
As a consequence, younger generations go out of their way to pursue sexual encounters without the restriction of marriage or commitment.
These generations also “struggle to maintain [long-term] relationships,” wrote the research team.
Inherently, people may know they are created for long-term commitment to one individual of the opposite sex, but they choose the easy way out and hop from one-night stand to one-night stand instead.
This is cause for great grief. One can only imagine how many people (of all ages) have experienced brokenness and loss because of society’s false promises around uncommitted sex.
As Christians who know and trust God’s design for sex, commitment, and marriage, we must model faithfulness in our relationships so that those around us can see the truth of God’s design instead of the lies of our culture.
4. Individuals who trust their partners to stay committed experience more satisfaction in marriage and in sex.
The study also found a connection between true commitment and long-term satisfaction.
When a man and woman commit to spending their lives together, whatever may come, they experience deep and lasting satisfaction in their relationship, which is exactly what God intended for marriage.
A married couple has the opportunity to “become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24) and experience true unity.
While these findings may not be news to Christians, it’s encouraging to see that even liberal academics are confirming the goodness of God’s design for sex and marriage and exposing the lies of the recent sexual revolution.
Read the full study here, and pray for a countercultural revolution in our time.