The music industry thrives on a sex, drugs, and rock n’ roll culture.
Many artists abuse drugs and alcohol and jump from one relationship to the next without thinking through their choices.
For years, Justin Bieber lived this lifestyle even abusing Xanax for a period of time in order to block out the guilt from his promiscuity.
But after meeting Christ, he knew he needed to make some changes.
It can be difficult to go against the norm, but that’s exactly what Justin Bieber is trying to do in both his life and his marriage to Hailey Baldwin.
In a move that is very unusual in the music industry, Justin and Hailey chose to submit to the will of God by waiting on sex until they tied the knot.
Up until just a few years ago, Justin was known almost as much for his antics and excesses as he was for his music. Although he began his career as a lovable and seemingly innocent young teen, the pressures and intoxication of fame caused many problems in his life.
Although his mom had taught him about Christ while he was growing up, Justin decided to reject those teachings and go his own way.
Yet during his deepest times of struggle and pain, Justin came back to church. Carl Lentz, his pastor, helped him to get off drugs, and even allowed Justin to live with him for a while to aid in his recovery.
Justin is wary of describing himself as “religious” because of the negativity associated with that word, but he has this to say about his beliefs: “I believe in the story of Jesus—that’s the simplicity of what I believe.”
Justin is also quick to acknowledge that sex had become a problem for him.
He decided to abstain from sex for more than a year before he began a relationship with his now wife, Hailey Baldwin, and they both continued to abstain until they were married.
He explained his thoughts on sexual purity in this way:
“He [God] doesn’t ask us not to have sex for him because he wants rules and stuff. He’s like, I’m trying to protect you from hurt and pain … Sometimes people have sex because they don’t feel good enough. Because they lack self-worth … I wanted to rededicate myself to God in that way because I really felt it was better for the condition of my soul. And I believe that God blessed me with Hailey as a result.”
Although Justin and Hailey had known each other for a decade and even dated in the past, connecting at church was a large part of what continued to bring them back together.
They were introduced by their parents at a very young age, but didn’t become friends until attending Hillsong Church together several years later.
A few years after that, they had a brief relationship that didn’t end well. They ran into each other again at church in the summer of 2018, and their relationship soon became serious.
The young couple is very honest about the fact that they are currently working on resolving past issues and relying heavily on their faith to make their marriage work.
Hailey freely admits that marriage is not easy, and that they are seeing a counselor recommended to them by pastor Judah Smith.
Justin acknowledges that his fame and his past choices have caused him to doubt himself and others: “One of the big things for me is trusting myself. I’ve made some bad decisions personally, and in relationships. Those mistakes have affected my confidence in my judgment. It’s been difficult for me even to trust Hailey. We’ve been working through stuff.”
Both Justin and Hailey are working on learning how to argue the right way in order to make their communication stronger. She tends to be the more logical, less vocal person in the relationship, while Justin is more emotional and expressive.
Although many people doubted the sincerity of their commitment to marriage, Hailey says that she “prayed to feel peace about the decision.”
Hailey admits: “We’re two young people who are learning as we go. I’m not going to sit here and lie and say it’s all a magical fantasy. It’s always going to be hard. It’s a choice … You don’t wake up every day saying, ‘I’m absolutely so in love and you are perfect.’ That’s not what being married is. But there’s something beautiful about it anyway — about wanting to fight for something, commit to building with someone.”
Please pray for this young couple and their marriage.
In the face of a great deal of temptation and an industry where many people give up very easily, they need prayers to stay strong and committed to each other.
Their honesty about their failures as well as their hope in Christ could cause them to be a great example for other young people who need to see that following God is worth the struggle, and that His ways really are the best.