All of us have been angry at some point in our lives.
While some anger is sinful and caused by our own brokenness – other times our anger is warranted and even just.
But when we’re angry – it’s crucial to deal with that emotion promptly. Here are a few ways to manage your anger before the sun goes down.
“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” – Ephesians 4:26
When we go to bed angry – holding a grudge, seething and replaying the wrong that was done to us (or someone else) – we give the devil a foothold.
Bitterness will begin to develop in our hearts, and while we can contain it (sometimes) for a little while – it will eventually spew out and poison everything around us – including our own hearts.
So what is one to do when they’ve been wronged?
Attempt To Reconcile
“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” – Romans 12:18
First – it’s important, as it depends on you, to be at peace with all people.
If someone has personally hurt you – go to them – and try to reconcile.
Perhaps they didn’t know they hurt you, or offended you in some way, and a simple conversation can resolve the issue.
Or maybe they did know, and by going to them directly, they have the chance to apologize and ask for forgiveness.
Of course – there are times when we go to our offenders and they don’t accept responsibility for their part and refuse to be at peace.
At this point, you can know you attempted the effort and can give the situation over to God and let Him deal with the heart of the other person.
Confess It To God
If you find yourself brewing with resentment and unchecked anger – confess it to God.
Anger in itself is not wrong – but it becomes sinful when we continue to let it brew under the surface making us bitter.
God already knows the condition of your heart – but confessing to Him that you’re angry and asking Him for help will help you regain your peace.
And don’t forget to pray!
Reflect On Your Own Heart
It can be easy to be mad at someone who wronged us – but reflect on the situation and recall whether you had a part in it.
Perhaps you said something offensive, or had a harsh tone when talking with someone.
Each person is responsible for their own actions – regardless of the actions of others.
Nobody can “make” us angry – it’s a choice.
As you reflect, you may realize a current situation brought up a painful experience from the past – causing you to feel triggered and act out.
Making sure your own side of the street is clear and sorted will help you know your part and keep a pure heart.
Remember The True Enemy
When we are hurt and angry at someone who offended us, it can be tempting to view them as the enemy.
But the truth is – the real enemy is Satan – who prowls around like a lion seeking to kill and destroy.
By remembering Satan is the real enemy – you can shield yourself from his fiery darts and not take the bait.
And finally – remember to keep an eternal perspective.
We all are guilty of getting caught up in our problems of this world – but if we remember this world is not our home and we are just passing through – it can help us keep life in perspective and remind us to keep short accounts.
Do you struggle with anger?
What are some strategies you can do today to help address your unchecked anger?
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“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” – John 3:16-17
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