Have you ever struggled to forgive someone who wronged you?
If you did, you aren’t alone.
But if you are struggling to forgive or are hesitant to “let the other person off the hook” – take a look at what forgiveness is – and what it isn’t.
Forgiveness Is Not Forgetting
When you forgive someone, it doesn’t mean you are called to forget what they did.
If someone continues to wound you, it’s appropriate to set boundaries to protect yourself.
When a serious offense has been committed – there are still consequences and we are all accountable for our actions.
Forgiveness isn’t “forgetting” the offense – but it is a deliberate decision to not continue to bring up the offense to the other person or ruminate about it in your head.
It’s choosing peace – instead of bitterness.
Forgiveness Is Not A Feeling
What if we lived life solely based on our feelings?
How many of us consistently “feel like” getting up and going to work, or choosing a salad over a slice of greasy pizza.
Many of us don’t “feel like” cooking dinner… or going to the gym and working out.
We don’t “feel like” doing our taxes…
… or making a budget.
But we do these things because we know our family needs to eat (so we cook) and taxes need to be paid.
You might not “feel like” forgiving someone – but our feelings aren’t in charge.
We forgive because we are called to obey God – and in obeying Him – we follow His command to forgive.
Forgiveness Is Not Denying A Wrong Occurred
Many people mistakenly believe if they forgive someone – they are pretending nothing was ever wrong.
But that’s not true!
In fact, when you forgive someone, you are acknowledging the person wronged you, yet still you are choosing to forgive them anyway.
If you ever struggle with forgiving someone in your life – think about how God has forgiven you even on your worst day.
And since God is perfect and without flaw – if He can forgive us – then who are we to think we are above forgiving another?
Forgiveness Is A Journey
If you still can’t find it in your heart to forgive someone, pray for God to give you the strength to be willing to forgive.
Some people even state they pray for God to give them the strength to be willing to even pray to be willing to start the process.
But wherever you are in your forgiveness journey – take heart in knowing you aren’t alone.
God is with you, and when you pray to Him to give you the strength to forgive, know that He will honor your sincere prayer.
Is there anyone in your life you need to forgive?
What is the hardest part about forgiving someone who wronged you?
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“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” – John 3:16-17
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